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Dear Muma, 

It’s been well over a year since you wrote Dear Mummy, you’re doing a marvellous job. And I just wanted to take the time now, to tell you that you are still doing a marvellous job. In fact, you’re doing a bloomin’ fantastic job given the current circumstances. 

The country is lockdown, meaning you are unable to travel anywhere and unable to see friends and family. You are at home all day, every day with an energetic, curious toddler who, despite your best efforts of encouraging independent play, does require you to entertain him from time to time – no wonder you’re exhausted; not to mention the fact that you’re growing another human being inside you. Yep, it’s completely understandable that you would like your own space, to stay in bed that little bit longer to sleep, to want to do nothing but sit on the sofa when he naps. It’s completely understandable that you want to cry. It’s understandable that you’re finding things tough. Being a parent is hard enough, parenting in a pandemic is something else! But you are strong, resilient (even though you may not feel like it), and the best muma your child could have. 

I want to tell you that it is completely ok that you don’t have a structure to every day with lots of fun activities and arts and crafts planned. It’s just not you – even though you thought you might be that type of mum. It’s completely ok that neither you, or your child get dressed until mid-morning/mid-day (but I will add, you do feel much better once you’ve got dressed). It’s completely ok that you sometimes pop your child in front of a screen just to give you a breather. 

You are doing a bloomin’ fantastic job at raising your child – especially given the current circumstances. Just think of all the things he’s learnt simply because you talk to him, you love him and care for him. You may feel like you’re unable to cope sometimes but I’d like to remind you of a few things. You get out of bed each day. You get dressed. You feed yourself, you feed your child. You go for explorations outside. You play. You change nappies. You work. You do house jobs. 

Just remember to relax too. Put those essential oils into the diffuser. Light some candles. Write. Read. Eat some chocolate and drink a G&T (non-alcoholic – you are pregnant). Go to bed early if you need to. Cry if you need to. Talk to a friend. Spend time with Jesus. These things are more important than ever in order to help you through. 

You have a gorgeous boy who thinks you’re the best Muma in the world. Keep going, and give yourself some love.

You are still doing a marvellous job!

Xxx